Let's go through this one by one.. Sweet and Sour Moments...
1. Friends come and go
I've learned a lot in the past year that no matter how close you are with a person, it all matters if they are going to stick with you until the rest of your life, and be with you when you are facing your downfall... I appreciate friendship like how I have high amount of gratitude towards my family members as I am the kind of person who value my friends.. There are definitely so many people out of there that I can point my finger and say 'Hey, that's my friend over there' but I do have a list of people whom I call as 'Friends in Need and My Precious Friends' that is at the top in my priority list... These are the people who have seen me at my worse stage and still never give up on me...
However, at times, when you are about to collapse and when you desperately in need of that 1 friend, and that friend decide to turn you down; that's when you realized who are your real friends and who you can count on... It took me quite a bit to learn how to grew out of it but I came to realize that not everyone that claim to be your 'best friend' is really acting like one..
I've lost minor friends in the past year, nevertheless God has given me a huge amount of diamonds that I can proudly call my friends who indeed was there to walk me through during my complicated stages...
2. You live in regret and you miss someone so badly; however letting go is the best thing you can ever do.
This is pretty much very normal for any individual to be in the stage where you feel that you are not perfect and you live in regret when you have lost someone that meant so much to you... Well know that things happens for a reason... And if that particular person is your immediate family members, it is going to be slightly hard to let go...
Think of it as a challenge.. If life does not throw you challenges, it will not lift you up to be a better person in future... Try to let go from the pain that had consumed you... Not letting go of the person but just the unbearable pain that is inside you which might turn you to a different person.. Always remember that you are stronger than you think you are...It is definitely not easy to let go however no one have ever told you that it is going to be hard to do it... The love you have is always the strongest thing compared to the loss and it will not take away the love you have had with the person who has left... Many people out there feels the pain of their loved ones similar to a huge stone being placed on their shoulder and you will not be able to remove it.. I was in the same place when I lost my dad...The whole universe seem to be against me and nothing anyone say matters...
However when time passes by and I realize that I do love my dad very much compared to anyone else on this earth, and my grief towards him should not be more than the love I have towards him...As the pain and the grief will eventually create a block towards the Love I have for him... That is when I realized that no matter what people say, the grief I have will never be the same compared to the Love I have for him and I start to think about all the good and sweet memories I had with him.. I started praying hard for him to have his good life up there watching me be a successful woman and taking care of our family the best I can for him..
This takes time, but all I can say is if you put your love on top of everything, the grief will slowly start to dissolve and you will start to cherish all the sweet memories and let go the sad part...
3. You are not everyone's cup of coffee
A very thoughtful lesson and it is time to think and revamp your mindset to come to realize that it is totally OK not to be everyone's cup of coffee or tea or juice... You need to remember that no matter how good you are, how well behaved you are out there, there will be someone who will not like what you do, who will not support you, who will not give any feedback for you and they will think that you are not doing well, that you are a failure, that you are so ugly and the list go on.. But you also need to remember that there are also some people out there who love you dearly and will be there and support you for being you, yourself and you!!
Thus, do not spend time convincing those who are not worth your time and who does not value the time you are giving to them sincerely... This is when you will realize the true potential people that will care and support you in times of need...
On top of that, you do not need to be very on them, all you have to do is to give them a polite gesture and you move on sharing you endless love to those who appreciate you...
During this time and this phase of your life you will finally notice those who appreciate and recognizes your gifts, be with them and be grateful to have their love... What you can practice here is to show them your love and your valuable positive vibes, keep them close to you, cherish them and you will happiness in it...
4. If you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten...
Correct!!! If you are doing the same thing everyday on a daily basis and you are expecting a big result, you must be insane!!... Example, if you are doing averagely the same thing you have been doing at work, you clock in, you complete your task, you clock out and you expect a huge amount of increment, you must be crazy... Learn from the best people who do extra work to get extra paycheck... It is as simple as if you would like to change the end result the best thing you need to do is to change the way you do things...
Many times we look at people who complain 24 hours about their job and how the boss are not appreciating them or maybe someone who runs a business and keep whining on how he or she is not able to get high income on a monthly basis... Please get back to basic; it is because these people are looking to change the end result but refuse to change the process... Try different approaches, talk to successful people, talk to people who have failed many time and learn from their mistake not to repeat the same mistake, do not mingle around with that same group of negative mindset people and come out from your comfort zone, never stop learning from the best and do many more things that will bring out the best in you to achieve the best result.
Stop sitting down at the same place and continue to complaint the journey of your life which is not improving.. If financial is your issue, and you know your current situation or lifestyle is not helping you to save even $100 in your bank account, this totally means you are not good in financial management.. You might need to put those extra effort to work more or take up a second job to top up or at least to create a saving account.. Trust me guys, you will never know when those savings will help you when in times of need... Please make sure you do not sit on the couch, or wake up everyday at 11 am , have lunch and continue to sleep and expect your bank account to have income by end of the month..No, it does not work that way.. A lot of successful people out there, was never lazy to begin with..They struggled and work their way out of the whole poverty to earn a better life... Some even have to work in a restaurant for less than RM 5 for an hour just to earn a little bit of extra income to pay the bills... If you would want to change the way you live your life, if you would want to settle your overflowing debts and do not want your next generation to pay your debts, start now ... Don't waste anymore time and change the way you do things on a daily basis.... Effort starts from you, Results will come alone the way if you show your utmost effort in doing what you really want to do to achieve your goals!
5. Never Give Up and Be Strong!
True enough when people say that you are stronger than you think are... Whatever you do in life, or on a daily basis you are prone to face challenges...Speaking about challenges, it can be something intangible, emotionally effecting you or something physical outside that can happen either to you or your loved ones.. For an example, you know for a fact, you have a very important appointment that afternoon let say around 2 pm, and you have taken leave to prepare yourself for the day..You woke up fresh, took your shower, set up your best and prominent outfit, your make-up is top-notch and when you just about to start the car, your battery died and you had to wait for couple of hours to get it fixed before you can get to your appointment destination.. All these are bits and pieces of trial and obstacles God has laid out in-front of you to test you along your journey...
You could analyse your life, perhaps your journey last year... If all went well and smooth you must be a God damn lucky person.. However for some, it could be a bumpy ride or full of turbulence in and out...Often the chaos will come one after the other or perhaps happens at the same time...The most important thing is not the amount of challenges that you are facing, but how strong you are in becoming a fearless individual and to get up and fight again to be the best version of yourself!!
Just remember Never Give Up on Yourself!! Whatever challenges you face, you need to be determined to get up and fight for your dreams! There is a reason why you have been holding on to what you really want in your life... Do not just let it vanish without making in reality... You need to be strong in accepting all the challenges, learning from it and dealing with it by keep moving forward.. Nothing should stop you from doing what you want, from achieving what you dream off!! Whatever happens, never give up on your dreams, keep on fighting for it as the happiness that comes after you achieve what you want in life is priceless!
Love,
Miss Coffee Fix
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